stty intr '^c' erase '^h' werase '^w' kill '^u'This will map ctl-c to the interrupt character, backspace to the erase character ctl-w to the word erase character and ctl-u the the line kill character. If you prefer delete as your erase key replace the '^h' with '^?' in the above command.
Unfortunately the .logon file is not generally executed when you start an xterm on a given system. That is why the xterm program has a X-resource called ttyModes. If you load the following X resource in your server then these keys will be mapped this way for all systems you visit:
XTerm*ttyModes: intr ^c erase ^h weras ^w kill ^uThis way you do not need to change your .login files on all systems on which you have accounts or concern yourself with conflicts in system defaults.