S.O.S. News

It's our 40th Anniversary!

S.O.S. was officially recognized by the Dean of Students and began offering services to the UD campus in 1976! Our alumni flew home to the Hen House to celebrate with current advocates at our 40th Anniversary Reunion on June 4th, during UD Alumni Weekend. Photos & highlights coming soon!


Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence

At some point, most people think about or question how healthy their romantic relationship is. Check out the chart below, which provides a good contrast between relationships that are healthy and relationships that might be abusive. If you find that your relationship has even just one or two characteristics listed in the right-hand column, it may help you to talk to someone about your relationship. You may be in an unhealthy, or even abusive relationship.

Healthy relationships function based on mutual respect, trust, equality, honesty, and open communication. Both partners in a healthy relationship maintain their own separate identities, and both partners share in decision making. When basic respect is missing, abuse is more likely to occur. Relationships are abusive when they involve use of intimidation, coersion, pressure, manipulation, one person controlling the other, put-downs or name-calling, or violence.

Click to listen to our DV Counselor Jenn Ewald's Sept 4th interview with WVUD.

 

In a healthy relationship, you... In an unhealthy relationship, you...
Communicate openly & honestly. Are afraid of the other's reaction or temper.
Feel physically & emotionally safe. Feel threatened or like you are "walking on eggshells" around the other person.
Take interest in and support each other's lives: goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc. Discourage the other person's goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc.
Permit and have privacy. One tries to control the other: what they wear, who they spend time with, what they do, etc.
Trust one another. Are overly jealous and possessive.
Feel valued and cared for. One makes the other person feel badly about him/herself.
Treat each other with respect. One puts the other person down, calls names.
Enjoy the time you spend together. Feel afraid of the other person.
Can resolve conflicts in a non-abusive manner. Make threats, throw objects, push, grab, hit, punch, push, slap, hold down, or otherwise harm the person..
Respect each other's need for space. Don't allow the other person to leave during an argument.
Have outside friends. Seeing other friends is discouraged.
Make decisions together. Only one makes decisions; makes the other feel as though they can't make sound decisions.
Participate in sexual activity by free choice. One pressures the other to participate in sexual activity, or forces them against their will.
Both partners feel good about themselves and each other. One partner feels manipulated by the other and feels badly about self.

Learn more from a Delaware website about developing Safe and Respectful relationships where you can take the "Check Yourself" Quiz, view innovative Public Service Announcements made by Delaware teens, and read about becoming a Courageous Bystander (just to list a few great features!) Then check out Virginia's Red Flag Campaign to help you identify behaviors of concern or to view warning signs in a graphic art style illustration, visit Friends of Rosalind.


To learn more, talk about your relationship, or seek help:

Resources:

Child, INC. (Provides counseling, shelters, groups, parenting help, and information for teens and adults in Delaware regarding Intimate Partner Violence.)
Choose Respect
Dating Violence Resource Center
Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council
Love is Respect
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Teen Dating Violence Information)
Red Flag Campaign (A Virginia resource to help you recognize unhealthy behaviors.)
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All (A Delaware resource about healthy relationships!)

To seek crisis support and victim advocacy 24 hrs a day from an SOS Victim Advocate, call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and you will be called back within 10 minutes.

Upcoming Events!

Thurs, May 5th, 7:00pm
All Recovery Yoga
160 Carpenter Sports Bldg.
FREE weekly All Recovery Yoga is here for Spring, Thursday nights at 7pm! Unlike other yoga classes, this practice focuses on poses that are restorative, rather than those with the potential to be triggering. Taught by Transformation Yoga and sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community and Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.)
Mon, May 16th, 6:30pm
Color Me Calm
Alumni Lounge, Perkins
De-stress with Pow! Have a study break with tea and cookies, light music & mandala coloring pages. Sponsored by Pow! Call 831-3457 for information.
Thurs, May 12th, 7:00pm
FINAL All Recovery Yoga
160 Carpenter Sports Bldg.
Join us for the last session of All Recovery Yoga of Spring. Unlike other yoga classes, this practice focuses on poses that are restorative, rather than those with the potential to be triggering. Taught by Transformation Yoga and sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community and Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.)